Are you a ‘yes’ person when you really mean ‘no’? You might find yourself agreeing to things that you really don’t want to do, out of wanting to be a ‘good’ or ‘nice’ person or because you don’t want to rock the boat. Do you say ‘yes’ to helping out even though you are drained? Do you feel you need to do the ‘right’ thing dictated by social norms, guilt, fear, obligation or not wanting to hurt somebody’s feelings? Do you allow others to treat you in a way that doesn’t feel good because you want them to like you?
If you feel ‘bad’ or ‘guilty’ for laying down a boundary with someone, that is like saying the other person’s needs, desires and wants are more important than your own. Your spirit wilts under this treatment. When you honor your own wishes this equals self-care and self-love.
The Shift!
Today you are being given permission to begin or to expand building healthy boundaries. It can seem a bit scary if you haven’t done this before but you will discover how good it feels once you get the hang of it. Be courageous today and speak your truth to at least one thing that is not in alignment or resonating with you. Notice how that feels in your body: weird, good, liberating? Let the ‘good’ feelings expand in the body. Honor yourself and what is right for you.
Examples:
- say ‘yes’ to taking time for yourself, to be alone
- say ‘no’ to doing another favor for a demanding friend or family member
- say ‘yes’ to meditation time
- say ‘no’ to taking on yet another task
Affirmation
“I courageously hold healthy boundaries to be in alignment with my spirit.”